Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Need advice

I am totally stressed about sending Jordan to kindergarten. He will be 5 in march so he can go. I always thought I would send him next year but if I do that he will turn 19 in march before he grads. I wander if that will make him upset to be so old and still in school. My thinking is I don't want there to be 10months between school and a mission. Really I feel sick about it and need to make a choice ASAP. Please give me some advice (just please don't be mean)

8 comments:

Heather (wife to Dave, mom to Jenna) said...

Reina, I really hope I haven't ever been mean about my advice. But, you know how I feel. I say if there is nothing keeping him from kindergarten, go for it. Now if his birthday was not until the summer, and he really wasn't ready, that's one thing. But as much as we want to predict the future, you have no idea what will be going on in 13 years. Jordan might want the few months to save for his mission, or take a few classes to get a jump start on his education. You can always do two years of kindergarten if he's not quite ready for first grade, but... if you wait a year, he can never be held back, even if it's the best choice.

Becky said...

10 months after school and before a mission is great. He can save up, work a little, maybe even do a semester of college before his mission. I am sad Paul's birthday is in October and he'll be quite old for his class when he's allowed to go.

Elaina & Darin Brabant said...

Reina,
It is such a tough decision for some of us. With our first boy we just felt he wasn't ready, emotionally, and physically (he is a boy with a birthday in summer) so we had him wait and it worked out really well. Now it's his younger brother's turn and we feel he is ready. So we'll see how he does this next school year and if he needs to take kinder again then I'd rather he did it now then to repeat in older grades. If you feel he's ready, you and Will, then send him. It will not be as bad as you anticipate. Like Heather said you don't know what'll happen by the time he graduates. Good luck and no matter what you decide he'll be alright with you there to help him along the way.

Nora Morgan said...

I agree with Elaina. Emma is one of the youngest. She turned 5 in May and started Kind in August. But she was totally ready--and so was I. Being at home everyday doing same-o same-o with Mom and Abbey wasn't doint it for her. She and I were in constant conflict--she just needed other stimulation, from someone else but me. So go with your gut and decide if you think he's ready--you guys are really the only ones who can decide that.

Tara Ciesiolka said...

Reina,
This is a really tough decision to make. If you feel that he is ready then I think you should send him. Why wait? No matter what, I know you will make the right decision about what to do.

Adam and Samantha said...

Decisions decisions!! I think everyone gave you really good advice, if he is ready send him, if he isn't, keep him home. I totally get why you don't want him to have those 10 months before his mission. But on the other hand he could really grow a lot in those 10 months before his mission. This is something that only you and Will can decide on. You'll make the right choice for him, just pray about it, you can't go wrong there!!

Chantri said...

Hey there! Logan's birthday is in July and we will be holding him back until he's 6 to go to Kindergarten. The only thing that worries me is him getting bored and being ready for Kindy...but I have held off preschool for this year and so he'll have two years of that and hopefully with other extracurricular activities he'll be fine being home for another year. I feel good about it because I think it's good for a boy to be older in his class. He's not waiting to drive, date, and he'll be good to go on his mission if he'd like or wait a few months and work or attend a semester of college...whatever he prefers. I have seen a lot of guys from my class who were younger dating before they were 16 cuz it's just too "embarrassing" to wait and also not going on a mission because they have already started college and don't want to stop or have met their love! Anyway-- whatever you decide will work out. I just thought I would share our plan! On the flipside, I won't hold my girl back unless she just wasn't ready for school yet.

Adam and Samantha said...

screw kindergarten...just send him right to high school so he can learn to pick up on the ladies