Wednesday, July 21, 2010


I find that now that I am 28 (soon to be 29) and have 3 kids (in a few weeks 4) I don't have as much time for the things I once did. I remember when I was 1st married I would call my Sister in law and talk for hours a day with her. I miss that. I haven't spoken to her for hours in years. When I call it is for a few short minutes and then it's back to our daily lives. She has 5 kids so I know she doesn't have the time any more. But I miss it. I think we should have a girls weekend just to chat and laugh!

I also don't have the time I would like for friends either. I mean they don't have time as well so it's not so bad but I would like to see my best friend more then once every three months. One day when she has a baby and I am the their Nanny I will see her daily but for now I miss her when I don't talk to her for month on end but she is busy and I am busy and that is the way it is now.

Crafts... I wish I could use nap time to do them but being 31 weeks pregnant I too need a nap so they have to wait.

I have a few people in my life that just don't seem to understand that I do not have any extra time in my day to make time for myself let alone them. And it's hard because I don't like to hurt others but my time is spent taking care of my kids, husband, house and sometimes myself. I am just not sure how to let them know that maybe we have grown apart and need to move on. Because what they expect from me is not when I can give. And it makes me sad but it's the truth. I can even pee by myself there is always a little one watching or a little hand at reaching under the door or two kids yelling at the door.

At this point in my life the people I consider my friends are the ones I don't need to call everyday or see every week. They are the ones that I can call last minute if I need something and they will be there. The ones that for no reason other than I am having a bad day will bring me and Eegee and a cookie:) That like me need a break from mommy hood and will call to see a movie or get ice cream.

I read an article that said Women with kids don't have time. (I have been working on this darn blog for a week cause I DON'T HAVE TIME) And it is totally true. I wish I had time to talk on the phone but when I do I have three little ones running around me needing my time. And I must give it to them because soon enough they won't need me any more and I will miss this!

I am thankful for the friends in my life who understand that even if I take a week to call you back or can't chat for long or hang out often that I still love ya! That I think of you often and wish we could hang out more but we have little ones that need us right now and when they are all grown up we will have each other to hang out with again:)

1 comment:

TrishAnderson said...

Great sentiments. I feel the same way. I have eve had to let friends go - even if they are mad at me when it is done, because they just don't understand that I am not single, or without several kids. I was thinking about this today on the way home from church and felt like you had read my mind when I opened up your post. Life keeps throwing curve balls and sometimes we just have to shut things out every now and again to make sure the really important things are the things that are cared for.

PS - A friend let me borrow a nursing cover so I am all set. Thank you for offering to help me though - very thoughtful!!!!